I’ve recently failed to achieve a goal, running my half marathon this coming weekend. The reason I’ve failed is that my body just isn’t happy to go further than about 8 miles at the moment. I’ve know for a while that I wouldn’t be able to run this half marathon and have been fairly OK with it. In the past I would have soldiered on and stubbornly finished my training ending up hurting myself in the process. I probably would have ended up hating running again but I would have achieved my goal. So the questions I’ve been asking myself is why am I so OK with what I would normally consider to be a massive failure.
I’ve always had this idea of you set a goal, you go out and achieve it or you don’t. It’s fairly black and white and probably stems from first reading Napolean Hill’s Think and Grow Rich at the age of 14. But since my thinking as become less about the destination and more about the journey, my life has become much happier. There has been some talk recently about living your life by themes instead of goals. I thought it was just another one of those fashionable buzz phrases that would be gone next month but this experience has shown me there might be a little something to it. You see although the goal was to run this half marathon, it was a black or white result, the theme that lead me there was to get become fitter and healthier. To have more energy in my life, more bounce in my step and loose a little of the weight I’ve been carrying for the last 10 years. All of these things have happened and I’ve been enjoying the journey every stride of the way.
This living by themes has been going on in other areas of my life as well with out me realising. I’m restructuring my business’s and projects around what I want to be doing with my time not how much money I can make. In doing so I’m moving away from web design on in the direction of teaching people how to run sites. I don’t know how it’s going to go but I’m excited about getting to the pc to make the next video or tweak the site. I don’t even know how I’m going to make money out of the site yet and i haven’t set any goals to that effect. I just want to build something awesome, help people and I know that somewhere along the way the rest will sort itself out.
So failing to achieve a goal isn’t as bad as I once thought it was. It seems that when you stop fixating about how the end result will make you happy and take the time to enjoy the ride things don’t have to be so black and white. And at the moment that feels pretty damn good to me.